Archives For November 30, 1999

Sharing Wisdom Series

A friend of mine shared a video recently that I’ve since seen circulated on several online platforms featuring St. Louis University High School baseball coach and Coach Baseball Right Founder, Steve Nicollerat. Once I watched (and shared) the video myself, I knew I had to reach out to Steve to introduce myself.

Here’s the 2:24 min video that every parent of a developing athlete should watch.

In it, Steve implores parents (many of whom appear to be dads) of youth baseball players to not allow our current sports culture to dictate what is right and wrong in terms of the total number of games that need to be played or to be pressured into early sports specialization.

Having two boys of my own as well as a daughter who all enjoy playing the game of baseball and softball, respectively (along with several other sports), I believe so strongly in Steve’s message. I see this window of time when they are actively engaged in sports as very narrow in the grand scheme of their lives and I’ll be damned if I don’t do everything in my power to help them enjoy every minute of their experiences.

I asked Steve if he’d be willing to help me kick off a new series, Sharing Wisdom: A Series of Coaching Perspectives, and he generously obliged. In the coming weeks, I will continue to share insights and guidance from many coaches whom I personally respect.

If you like what you read, please visit each of these coaches’ online platforms (if applicable…some are old school and prefer to maintain communications offline) to learn more about their individual philosophies. Reach out to me with questions or thoughts in the comment section below or by contacting me directly.

Without further ado, I bring you the first installment of Sharing Wisdom: A Series of Coaching Perspectives…

Q1: What is the single greatest attribute a young athlete must possess in order to be viewed as a “difference maker” by a coach?

Steve’s Response: I look for kids who can listen to instruction, be open to new ideas, and are not satisfied with being average. Too many or our kids are ok with being ok. Those kids really won’t do much for your program. The more a player invests himself in something, the more disappointed he is when things are not going well. That disappointment can turn into motivation. Too many kids never get to that level of investment.

Q2: How should a kid who wants to compete on a high school team mentally prepare or conduct himself in order to make that jump to the next level?

Steve’s Response: Being open to the idea that the number of games played does not make him better. The player needs to learn the game from his experiences and the experiences of players around him.

Just being present at the game, and playing in the game is not that important. Getting better from understanding what is happening around you is crucial.  It is the idea that players can spend their time or invest their time. Understanding the difference is big.

Q3: Tell me about one kid (you can name the athlete or choose not to) who left an enormous influence on you/your program and describe why that is.

Steve’s Response: I have had many young men impact me and our program. They all seem to be very balanced, handle success and failure well, and make others around them better.

They seem to put the concerns of others ahead of their own. They seem to know they are part of something bigger than themselves. They tend to challenge everybody around them to be a better player and person, not by saying anything, but by how they conduct themselves. They are very humble in their success. They are very solid away from the game.

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Editor’s note: Notice how this coach attributes the overall success of his program to the combined contributions of many dedicated athletes as opposed to singling out any one young man in particular? It is my belief that this approach (valuing teamwork over individualism) will lay a foundation for how these athletes view their relationships with others both during and beyond their playing days.

Want to learn more about Steve Nicollerat? Check out CoachBaseballRight.com and read his bio here.

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Steve Nicollerat, St. Louis University High School Baseball Coach and Founder of Coach Baseball Right

The Sharing Wisdom: A Series of Coaching Perspectives is written by Heidi Woodard.

My best friend is gone

March 1, 2016

Murphy goodbye

Waves of grief and gratitude have crashed down on me over the last several days. Yet I looked into her eyes and I knew she understood and that we would both be ok.

Like every soul-shaking loss I’ve endured in life, I just need time. Time does not heal, but it helps soften the blow…a little bit…day by day.

I’m normally frustrated by my mind. I have an awful memory. But in times like this, I need to wrap myself up in my natural tendency to forget the details over time like it’s a security blanket protecting me from painful flashbacks for which I am not prepared.

Trying to stop the tears proves as futile as trying to hold onto her forever.

Sixteen years. I was blessed to have my pug, Murphy, in my life…and in my family’s life…for 16 whole years. She started off with just me and Ryan. Throughout the course of her lifetime, she gained a brotha-from-anotha-mother canine companion named Eightball (who passed away on June 3, 2010 and now waits for me on this side of the Rainbow Bridge) as well as two human brothers (now 14 and 12 years old) and a human sister (now 7 years old).

My kids have never known life without her. Hell, it’s hard for ME to remember life without her…and even harder to imagine life moving forward without her.

It is clear to me that my heart has a tendency to latch onto and love those who snore the loudest: My grandma Peterson, Murphy, and Ryan.

(I’m doing my best to remember to laugh.)

She was not in pain. She simply had finished her journey here. She was tired. I am a lot to take care of, after all.

Dogs love with every bone in their body. I know they’re not for everyone and I never try to convince a non-dog person that they should change their mind. What I will say is “think of something in your life that you love so much that it’s incomparable to anything else.” That’s how my dogs have made me feel over the years. I couldn’t ever fully pay back their love, but I tried.

I could rehash 1,000 stories about Murphy, but I feel like pictures reveal more than any words ever could.

My best friend is gone. But not forgotten. And I have to believe that one day I will see her again.

October 4, 1999 – March 1, 2016

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Written by Heidi Woodard

Knowing how great life is

January 9, 2016

How’s life been treating you?

I’m guessing your answer to that question is probably influenced by your age, whom you depend on and who depends on you, the person you see staring back at you in the mirror, the struggles you’ve endured, the triumphs you’ve enjoyed, and how you personally define happiness.

Whenever asked, my go-to answer is normally “good!” without a second thought. But, depending on different life circumstances, what actually swirls around in my brain is more like this…

I can’t believe I’m leaving home to go live somewhere else for college.*

I kinda like Ryan Woodard. Like…a lot.

Saying goodbye to my teammates after all these years, and all we’ve been through together, is the worst.

I’m going to marry him. Are we technically grownups? This is crazy.

Finally graduating school…look out real world…I’m coming for you.

These can’t actually be the ONLY houses in our price range. Are these even up to code? Will we ever find a home?

What do you mean there are no paid breaks between New Year’s and Memorial Day? That can’t be right.

It’s surreal this will be our last dinner together as just the two of us before bringing a mini version of ourselves into this world.

I have to plan my social life and sleeping schedule in three hour increments because this kid is so hungry.

I kinda want to punch Ryan every time I wake up and see him next to me sleeping ‘like a baby’. Where did that stupid phrase come from? Our baby doesn’t sleep.

Returning to work sounded good on paper. But, man, it’s hard functioning with my head in one place and my heart in another.

I can’t believe our little boy will soon have a baby brother. I can’t wait!

What on earth were we thinking?

Trying to keep up with daily demands and hold it all together.

I’m not exercising as much as I used to, but at least I’m doing something one or two nights a week.

It’s not exactly the career path I’d envisioned, but it’s stable.

How on earth do people keep their homes ‘Open House’ clean all the time?

Why isn’t there a punch card for ER visits that every mom of boys automatically receives before leaving the hospital?

One last look before we close the door for the final time on our first home. I remember the day we moved into this place and our first night sleeping in the basement on nothing but a mattress. Such a great memory.

I guess we’ll be living in an apartment while we wait for the new home to be finished. With two small children. And two dogs.

Finally found our forever home, or at least where we’ll be until our kids leave us behind.

This is a longer commute than I’m used to.

MaternalMedia is officially launched! Online therapy. Less pressure than actually writing a book. I wonder if anyone actually relates to what I ramble about?

A trifecta of kids? WHY NOT?! Flat stomachs are overrated.

The rumor is indeed true: Girls are a different breed. She has strong opinions about what she’s doing and wearing and eating and planning. As a preschooler, she looked me over from head-to-toe and asked me if today was “mismatch day” at my work. It was not. 

I will do this damn triathlon if it kills me. There’s still an athlete buried in here somewhere!

I am guaranteed uninterrupted ME time if I stick with running.

Ryan is a supportive husband, a fun dad, and a caring coach. I think I’ll keep him.

My plan is to win over a dynamic duo of radio DJs and then keep showing up in their studio until they beg me to leave.

OHMEYEGAWD ALL OF THE KIDS NEED SOMETHING 24/7.

Goodbye friends. Goodbye sanity. Goodbye running. Goodnight Moon.

Hello minivan. 

I’m tired of working on auto-pilot. Eject! Eject!

New job. New challenges. New team. Onward.

I’m going to GiveTheGameBack because I love to watch my kids play.

I’m happy.

I’m exhausted.

Dark room, blankets, foo foo drink, Netflix. These are a few of my favorite things.

I never fully appreciated my mom and dad while growing up.

I’ve got the best parents and in-laws in the world. I would be lost without them.

How blessed am I to have colleagues like these doing the work that I do? Hoping for the best as my future lies in someone else’s hands.

I have to stand on my tip toes to see into the eyes of a boy who once weighed 8 lbs, 14 oz, and whose entire body was 22.5 inches long.

We are soon going to have three different kids in three separate schools.

My dog won’t live forever. But I will love my dog forever.

* I have retained very few memories prior to 1995.

 

So that pretty much summed up the last 20 years with one caveat: I left out some of the bigger experiences that have helped me gain perspective and cherish each new day for the blessing that it is.

Losing my grandparents, rocking my children back to sleep in the middle of the night, getting to know the woman whose son gave my mom a second chance at life, skiing down a mountain side with my dad, traveling to tropical get-aways with my husband, saying goodbye to one of our dogs, appreciating  just how far friends are willing to go to support me and my dreams, embracing the chance to serve as a witness when my sister marries her longtime girlfriend, staring in awe as my children morph into free-thinking, uniquely incredible people…hard to adequately articulate what these moments mean to me.

I do know that, in my 39th year of life, as my dear friend Ashli so eloquently puts it:

At least I get to spend the rest of my life knowing how great life is.

Video forewarning: Ashli’s favorite thing about life is connecting with people and once you hear her words and see her smile, you will forever be changed for the better. Take time to watch this beautiful video that was originally posted on the Her View from Home Facebook page and is sponsored by Team Concepts.

The next time someone asks How life’s been treating you?, be honest. If not with them, at least with yourself.

Take the time to genuinely thank those who have made your life great. Say goodbye to people or things who don’t.

Thank you for coming along on this journey that I originally thought was just a blog…but turns out it’s been so much more for me.

Written by Heidi Woodard