I left my job. Now it’s three years later.

August 25, 2015

I find it equally surprising and comforting that so many people took the time to comment on a post I wrote back in June 2012 titled “I’m leaving my job” because, at the time, I wrote it mainly to reassure myself I was making the right choice. I honestly didn’t expect feedback in response to what I wrote.

Since that initial post sparked a lot of well wishers to chime in and let me know I would be ok, I thought it would be fitting to follow-up three years later with an update. I AM better than ok.

You see, I left a corporation that had limitless time attached to it (no, that’s not entirely true, there is no place that is 100% safe). But I did say goodbye to a company with seemingly more security than I have now.

Back then I accepted a new role that is tied to a company that was awarded a defined-period-of-time contract to do business. I live with the knowledge that, as early as this time next year, I could be job hunting again if we aren’t re-awarded new business.

I like to talk the talk, but not necessarily walk the walk, when it comes to embracing change.

I know without a doubt that every leap I’ve made up to this point in my life has resulted in being better off than where I was before. Yet, it never gets un-scary to take that leap, does it?

There are likely more than a few of you on the fence right now struggling with an important life change. I’m here to tell you…it WILL be better than ok.

  • It will be better than ok so long as you’ve weighed your options (never underestimate a pros/cons list) and it feels like it’s a choice you can accept and embrace.
  • It will be better than ok if you can imagine the possibilities of pursuing something that calls to you without fear of the unknown blocking your perspective.
  • It will be better than ok if it makes it easier for you to explain to your children why you choose to go to work because, believe it or not, they are interested in knowing what it is that you do all day and why you do it.

If you are anything like me, you started working because you wanted to somehow make a difference along with a paycheck. You wanted to use your talents and work alongside compelling colleagues that brought out the best in you. You didn’t mind putting in extra hours when no one cared that you did because you thought your work would define your greatness.

Allow me to let you in on a little secret….

…. (come close and listen, this is good stuff)….

…. life happens when you least expect it.

It happened to me.

I graduated college, got married, landed a job, lived in a few apartments, played in slow pitch softball and volleyball leagues, bought a house, had three children, stopped playing all previously mentioned activities, leaned on and laughed with girlfriends, signed my kids up for too many activities, watched loved ones get sick, rejoiced when some got better, said goodbye to others forever, and started to listen more than I talked.

That last one continues to be a struggle.

This time in my life, this job, has given me opportunities that I won’t take for granted. This phase of my career has given me the chance to make an impression on my kids.

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Helping a little guy with the ring toss game at a community event.

I have more life experience and, as a result, recognize how different people deemed “in charge” have either helped or hindered my progress over the years. Some were leaders who encouraged new ideas, other were followers who trickled down orders.

Because life happens, I now know how to take better care of the people who rely on me from day-to-day. I’m handling less projects and more people.

People are saying things like “Your communication was excellent,” and “I appreciate you more than you know.” Amazing the types of things you hear when you stop doing all of the talking!

Yet the future remains uncertain.

If it all comes to an end in a year’s time, I will never regret making that leap.

Because…I am better than ok. And you will be too.

Written by Heidi Woodard

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6 responses to I left my job. Now it’s three years later.

  1. 

    Excellent perspective and words of reassurance, Heidi…for people in any situation of uncertainty.

    I’m much more likely to have change thrust upon me by life than I am to leap at change like a panther who hasn’t eaten since lunch. But I agree that even with what seemed the bleakest of changes I have come out better on the other side.

    I find it helps to remember that at the end of the night, even if your entire world has turned upside down, you always have yourself. You can choose your attitude, you can choose your perspective, you can choose how you will treat others, and you can choose what you will tell yourself when you are alone with your thoughts. And if you are happy and satisfied with that person you choose to be, you will always be better than okay.

  2. 

    I had to go back and read your post from 3 years ago. My comment was glib, but I stand with my thought; If you leap the net will appear. That ideal has never failed me.

    As far as predicting our own future goes, most everyone sucks at it, but we are destined to be destined. This was an excellent article! And for the 32nd week in a row, what Shannon said…

    • 

      I had never read those words before you posted them in response to that initial blog, I have repeated “the net will appear” to myself and others several times since then. Not at all glib. Glorious! And I needed to hear it. More people need to hear it.

  3. 

    Well said, thanks for sharing. So relevant was your comment in “Psssttt… I’m leaving an impression on you boys” – – – “the act of being a compassionate individual trumps all”, so very true!