When I created Maternal Media back in 2012, I vowed to give readers a place to go when they needed a gentle reminder to take everything in stride. If I’m being completely honest, I knew this site would serve me just as much as it would you.
My last post was all about viewing each new day as a sunrise as opposed to a storm. I’m a big believer in positive thinking. My body and facial expression don’t always get the memo, but my soul’s desire is to always remain sunny.
I like to follow and hang out with similar thinkers. My thought is it’s generally easier for all of us to harp on the bad stuff in life, because there is plenty of that to go around, than it is to live simplistically and seek out beauty in the everyday ordinary.
That being said…
My family is a typical over-scheduled American stereotype. Between the five of us, we’re currently “balancing” two jobs (well, four, if I count my side gigs and my husband’s refereeing), two schools, four sports, one stress-filled holiday, a geriatric dog, you get the point.
I was literally yelling out WHERE’S MY D@MN SUNSHINE?! on my birthday last weekend after learning our oldest boy was diagnosed with strep throat. This, after his younger brother and dad were both sick for over a month prior.
As the dark clouds threatened to roll over my body, I resisted the temptation to hang my head low and retreat.
Had I not looked up, I would have missed one of arguably the funnier kindergarten concert performances I’ve had the privilege of watching. My daughter’s in the black dress in the top middle, breaking pinatas like a boss. (And, in case you’re wondering, I’m still too dumb to remember to hold my phone horizontally while videotaping. Can’t Apple develop some trick to auto-correct that? They’re a freaking technology think camp.)
I would have also missed an event that happens about as often as a Halley’s Comet sighting, which was capturing both of my boys smiling next to one another as if they generally get along.
To all the parents out there, I urge you to read the words below and take comfort in the fact that none of us are doing it 100 percent right 100 percent of the time. I’m a recovering perfectionist. Trust me when I share that doing everything precisely the way it should be done is overrated, especially when it compromises your sanity.
We live. We make mistakes. We learn. We move on.
“Do not ask your children
to strive for extraordinary lives.
Such striving may seem admirable,
but it is the way of foolishness.
Help them instead to find the wonder
and the marvel of an ordinary life.
Show them the joy of tasting
tomatoes, apples and pears.
Show them how to cry
when pets and people die.
Show them the infinite pleasure
in the touch of a hand.
And make the ordinary come alive for them.
The extraordinary will take care of itself.”
― William Martin
Written by Heidi Woodard
This may sound very me-driven and self-serving so please forgive me, but in reading your words with each knew post I take solace that despite f-ing up many things in my life, I think I did parenting pretty well.
For what it’s worth, I think you do it exceptionally well.
Not entirely sure if I’m worthy of such praise, but I appreciate you offering it anyway. Your posts always make me think/evaluate/reflect. I’m confident your daughter has learned quite a lot from you.
Very good blog!!
Very nice comment!!
Lovely. Yes – let’s all take a breath and enjoy the show! Vertically. 🙂
Ha! Yes, Mardra, excellent perspective. If we are able to breathe freely, stand upright, and appreciate what is in front of us, we will be fine.
I still feel like Apple is making the whole video technology thing too hard. I just made a whole ton of droid users roll their eyes big-time. 🙂
This reply is to your reply – HA! Yup.