How others see you

December 26, 2016

I’ve read several people’s personal opinions on social media and have heard others talk about how 2016 needs to end already due to the fact that a lot of terrible things have happened this year.

Being able to tuck my three children into bed at night (metaphorically speaking as they each grow more independent by the day) and seeing my husband’s eyes looking back at mine reminds me that I don’t have anything significant or real to complain about. Hanging out with my parents, my sister, and extended family over the holidays gave me much perspective in terms of what I have. As compared to what so many others do not.

I’d imagine if you asked people who ran into me this last year how they might describe me, you would hear something like “happy go lucky” because that is how I try to carry myself. Even when I am feeling neither happy nor lucky.

I shared back in August how I lost my cousin. A beautiful, vibrant person who took her final breath and left this earth far too soon.

You learn more about the people whom you choose to associate with when times are tough. During this low point in my life, it was easy to see which of my relationships were strong and which were seasonal.


I entered a new role within a new company around the same time. Whenever you apply for a job, the potential employer wants to know what’s in it for them. Rightfully so, in exchange for a paycheck, they want to make sure they are getting a great R.O.I.

I’ve taken several professional personality tests over the years and here are my Top 5 “what I bring to the table” strengths according to one such test:

1. Maximizer – I love honing my own strengths and helping others maximize theirs.
2. Positivity – I realize bad things in life happen; I simply choose to focus on the good things.
3. Woo – (Winning Others Over) I enjoy finding common interests with people in order to build rapport.
4. Communication – I like to explain, to describe, to speak in public, and to write.
5. Developer – I like to see the potential in others and help them experience success.

If I could add one more category that wasn’t an option included in the possible testing outcomes, I’d say I want to add value to something remarkable. That’s not too much to ask, right?

My hope for me and for you is that 2017 turns out to be a remarkable year, however you define that to be. In order to move onward, we must say goodbye to the bad stuff in order to remain open to what awaits.

Written by Heidi Woodard

6 responses to How others see you


    I was thinking today with so many people glad that 2016 is almost over, what a great year it has been for me. I still work in bare feet. I make a good living. My life, for the most part, is on autopilot. Some bad stuff happened, but way more good stuff happened to me, and I am grateful.

    As far as the friends along the way go, in hindsight I can see that most of my friends in 2016 were also friends in 2015, but when I look more closely, many have been friends since 197?, 198? and 199?. Roots friends. Indeed…


      I’d imagine you are considered a root friend to many, including the good Mr. Kiefer who introduced your writing to me several years back. Have a great New Year.


    I look forward to seeing the New Year come, not because of what we read in the media as the expected horrors to come, or the awful outcomes in 2016. I am just happy to have this time to share with those I love.

    We hosted a man from Kenya over Thanksgiving. In hearing his stories, simply put, I am grateful for running water, both hot and cold. Especially that I don’t have to walk 4 miles to retrieve.

    Here’s to all the blessings ahead in 2017, Heidi.


      Thank you! I, too, have stayed away from social media more than normal. I try to follow outlets that share more good news than bad because I’ve learned the majority of media outlets fight for the right to be the first to publish the terrible stuff. It can weigh way too heavy on the heart. So happy to read how you hosted a man from Kenya…what a fitting way to spend Thanksgiving. Happy New Year to you.


    When I was finished typing out the comment on positivity and time you inspired me to write, it was practically as long as your post. So I cut it out and will paste it in an email to you instead. 😉 Here in your comment section, I will simply say… I am so sure, deep in my heart, that you are going to have a fulfilling 2017, my friend. 🙂